Hi, it's been a while since I wrote something. Today I want to recommend a little gem I recently discovered—Between Us.
Honestly, when I first saw the name, I thought it was some kind of couple-exclusive app. But after using it, I realized its application scenarios are much broader than I imagined. Whether you're a lovey-dovey couple, a long-married pair, best friends or siblings who are usually busy with their own things, or even someone who wants to have a good chat with parents but doesn't know how to start—this tool can help.
First, let me tell you what it actually does.
Simply put: it helps you and another person have a meaningful conversation. Not the casual "Have you eaten?" or "I'm so tired today" kind of small talk, but topics that truly let you step into each other's hearts. It has various question packs like "About Love," "About Friendship," "About Family," "About the Future," etc., each containing over a dozen questions. You and the other person open it on your phones (no need to be online simultaneously), write down your true thoughts for each question, and then the system generates a personalized "Relationship Reflection Report" that compares and analyzes your answers side by side. Sounds ritualistic, right? I tried it and it actually worked great.
My first experience: Breaking the ice with a long-distance best friend
After graduating from high school, my best friend and I work in different cities. Our daily WeChat chats are basically just a meme war and occasional complaints. We haven't had a real heart-to-heart in a long time. When I saw that Between Us has a "Friendship" themed question pack, I dragged her to try it. At first, she was a bit resistant, saying, "This is so awkward, like taking a personality test." But I told her to treat it like a fun game, and she finally agreed. And guess what? After we both answered those questions and saw the report generated, we were completely taken aback.
In the report, there was a section called "Your expectations of each other." I saw her as a friend who would reply immediately no matter how busy she was, while she actually thought I was the kind of person who was annoyed by her being too clingy. This kind of misunderstanding might never have been discovered without this deliberately designed conversation. Later, we video-called for two hours, discussing every point highlighted in the report, and our relationship instantly returned to that close high-school vibe. So I say, this tool isn't just for couples; friends need deep communication too.
The process is super simple—just three steps.
- Step one: Choose someone to play with. The other person doesn't need to register an account. You just invite them to join a room, kind of like creating a private chat room.
- Step two: Pick a conversation pack that interests you. Currently available are "Getting to Know You," "Deep Dive," "Adventure," "Love," "Friendship," "Family," and more. Each pack has about 10–15 questions, some multiple-choice, some open-ended fill-in-the-blank. I prefer the open-ended ones because you can write long, detailed heart-to-heart answers.
- Step three: Answer independently. You write your answers, they write theirs. Neither can see the other's responses until after submission, when the system compiles them into a report. This process is brilliant because there's no pressure—you can write the most honest thoughts without worrying about the other person watching awkwardly.
Once the report is out, you'll see both answers displayed side by side, with highlights marking where you match especially well or where you differ significantly. For example, one question might be "What do you think the other person appreciates most about you?" If your answers are highly consistent, the system will show a "✨ Soul Connection" badge. If they're completely opposite, it will mark that too and add a little tip like "There might be a misunderstanding here—want to talk about it?" It's really thoughtful.
What I like most about it
- First, the privacy is excellent. All data is encrypted, and the other person can't see your answers until both of you have submitted. Perfect for those who find it hard to say certain things face-to-face.
- Second, the report isn't just cold text. It includes visual charts, like colored blocks showing your compatibility level and emotional temperature for each topic.
- Third, the question packs are well-designed. They don't ask shallow questions like "Do you love me?" but instead pose thought-provoking and practical ones like "What is one goal you hope we can achieve together?" or "If we ever have a fight, how would you like me to reach out to you first?"
So many use cases
Besides long-distance friends, I think it's great for newlyweds adjusting to each other, couples in the honeymoon phase wanting to deepen intimacy, or two people who've had a falling out and want to repair the relationship. It's also suitable for parents who want to have a good talk with their kids (there's even a teen pack with questions tailored for parent-child communication), and for couples planning to move in together or get married—those packs cover practical topics like household chores, financial planning, personal space needs, etc. Much better than arguing about these things, a hundred times over.
A few minor complaints
It's not without flaws. The number of question packs is still limited, and they seem to be primarily in English—though there are Chinese translations, some sentences feel a bit stiff. Also, the free packs are limited; you need to pay to unlock more themes (though the price is reasonable, about the cost of a milk tea). And I think it would be even better if the report could be exported as a PDF or shared on social media for bragging rights (haha, if that existed, it would be absolutely epic).
Finally, some personal thoughts
Honestly, these days, most people are glued to their phones, playing games or scrolling through feeds. Real, quiet, face-to-face conversations are rare. After using it once with my best friend, we've already planned to do this at least once a month. Between Us is no magic cure-all, but it provides a great framework for you and the person you care about to set aside all the digital noise and truly see each other. If you've recently felt a distance between you and someone, or if you just want to have a deep conversation with someone you like, give it a try. You might be surprised. Alright, that's all for today. I'm off to nag my best friend to do the next set of questions. Bye-bye!